Prioritize Kids


For this week’s blog post I wanted to talk about something that has been on my mind lately. There are infinite possible discussions in this area, but I wanted to write just a few of my thoughts about the family.

 In a society where the family is becoming a “back-burner” priority, it is alarming how much we forget just how much the family affects. If you think about how children and their ideas of the world are formed, their first interactions are with their family. Their beliefs, cultural background, interests, education, etc. all begin with what they see at home. When the family is broken up or people decide not to make having/raising kids a priority, it is sad to see these lessons fade away.

I think sometimes people see kids as burdens rather than priorities. There are lots of opinions along the lines of kids interrupt careers, education, even having fun. But really, they are the purpose of our lives. We need to make helping the next generation a priority. Our kids are going to be a reflection of us and how we value things. We want a bright future for our world and if we go about life with the idea that kids are a side interest, we are losing an opportunity to not only make a difference in someone’s life, but to help society continue to grow and prosper. They ARE our jobs, our biggest teachers, and they make life interesting (yes, even fun!). Now, if you think this is a “rose-colored lens” way of looking at kids, then you’re right. It is not always going to be easy and sometimes it may be very stressful, but when you are at the end of your life looking back, are you going to be thinking about the career you had, the material items you’ve owned? Or are you going to look back on the lives you impacted and the people who matter the most to you?

When I am at the end of my life looking back, I hope I am surrounded by people who I love dearly. I hope that my kids will hold me and tell me they love me. I hope I can make a difference in the world by making my kids a priority. I want my kids to be contributing members of society who work hard. I want to be their example for living a righteous and full life. They will be educated, they will love learning and they will appreciate the things they have in this life because I have taught them well. As a parent, struggles will come, BUT as you not just endure- as you have GRIT- your children will see that example. You can only do so much for them, so make it count. Family is everything.


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